The other night, I saw a video of a grizzly bear walking in circles. However, this bear was not in a cage, it was outside and therefore free to go wherever it wanted.

Apparently it wasn’t that long ago that this bear was in a cage and didn’t have the freedom that it does now. This bear’s environment had changed, but his behavior remained the same.

a crazy scene

It would be easy to reflect on this and think “wow, this bear isn’t very smart” and “if it were smarter, it would be able to see what’s going on and change its behavior”. Now, as easy as it is to do this, what’s not so easy is for someone to recognize when they’re doing the same thing, or change their behavior when they’re aware of it.

This is not to say that they will have lived in a small area and are now free to go where they want. No, it’s probably much more subtle than that and that’s why it can go unnoticed, so to speak.

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Also, if they have behaved in a certain way for more or less their entire lives, they may not even notice this behavior. This will mean that it will be normal; thus preventing them from questioning what is happening.

What can also play apart in this is that they can live in a society where what they are doing is common. Therefore, if they are not aware of what is going on, it is unlikely that anyone around them will say anything.

One more

To top it off, it could be someone who is extremely “intelligent” and has numerous qualifications. This can make it hard to accept that they would behave in a way that doesn’t serve them.

At this point, it would be easy to ask: how could someone like that behave in this way if they are actually intelligent? The question that could also arise at this point is: is there more than one type of intelligence?

the same pattern

When it comes to what someone can do that doesn’t work for them, there are plenty of examples. If you could take a step back and reflect on your life, you could see that you are continually drawn to people who are unavailable, and even when you know someone is unavailable, you keep coming back to them.

And/or, they may have people in their life who don’t treat them very well. Some of these people may have been in your life for years and you may find more people like this as time goes on.

draw the line

So whether someone can relate to one of the above behaviors, or it is another behavior or behaviors that are undermining them, they may be in a position where they are ready to change their life. If one sees himself as ‘intelligent’, one may wonder how he could have been so ‘stupid’ for so long.

However, if they respond in this way, it is important for them to keep in mind that this does not mean that they are stupid or that there is something inherently wrong with them. What it will simply show is that they have a mind that is very good at tricking them and preventing them from developing self-awareness in the process.

the right education

Also, there is a strong possibility that they may not have learned how their mind works while they were in the educational system. When it comes to what they learned, this would probably have been what would benefit the ‘system’, not what would allow them to gain a deeper understanding of themselves, develop self-awareness, and heal their inner wounds.

Without a doubt, if education taught these three things, it would not be long before there would be massive change on this earth. With these understandings, more and more people could be the change they want to see in the world instead of trying to change the world, while they themselves are in a complete mess.

going deeper

However, in order for one to understand why they would behave in a way that does not serve them, it will be necessary for them to understand that they have both a conscious and an unconscious mind. When it comes to the latter, this part of them is not only hidden but also much more powerful than the former and may want different things.

With this in mind, the way for them to understand why they would behave destructively is to connect with this part of them and find out what it is trying to accomplish. This part of them will reveal what’s going on, but that doesn’t mean that none of it will make sense to your conscious mind, at least not at first.

back in time

If one can see that they have a penchant for being attracted to people who are unavailable, and once they know someone is like that, they go back to them, it probably illustrates that a part of them is trying to resolve a situation from their past. . During their younger years, they may have had at least one caregiver who was not available.

Many years will have passed since then, but your child/emotional self has no sense of time and will continue to try to receive what it did not receive so many years ago. This part of them will not give up until he receives what was lost.

Compulsion

This part doesn’t care how much pain this behavior is causing them; he is possessed by his need to finally receive what was lost. All the suffering that this behavior has caused will show them that it is so.

Another part of this is that although this part of them will want to receive what was lost, they will also be afraid to receive it. What this boils down to is that however painful his early years were, he would have become associated with what is familiar, and what is familiar is classified as what is safe for his ego-mind.

A new beginning

So, as crazy as it is to endlessly behave in a way that serves no purpose, what makes it even crazier is that this part is also afraid of what it’s trying to receive. Having said that, it is through this process of repeating the past that one may realize what it is that needs to be healed in order to become more integrated and whole.

The problem is, of course, that if you’re not aware of what’s going on, you won’t be able to make use of the information your outside world gives you. Instead of being able to see what’s going on and resolve what’s popping up, they’ll continually do something that will, at best, greatly undermine them, and at worst, kill them slowly or instantly.

Awareness

On one level, there is the pattern of behavior that is not serving you, and on a deeper level, there is the emotional pain that is holding this pattern in place. For your life to change, you will need to get in touch with this pain and work through it.
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As you overcome this pain, your need to behave in a certain way will gradually lessen. This is a process that can be carried out with the help of a therapist or healer.