The caresses with an act that leads couples to experience unforgettable feelings and opens the door to moments of intimacy, but that many are ignored.

Raquel Díaz Illescas, psychologist and sexologist, said in conversation with the newspaper El Mundo: “This is for you, it is a good way to work on fine touch, calm the mind and learn to caress.”

“Yes, it’s not just that you learn braille, do it if you want. It is also not an act of empathy with blind people, although it would not be bad for all people to do so. It is an opportunity for your caresses to become more seductive and unforgettable, both in the body of another person, as in your own, “he added.

Here the diffusion by the Spanish medium about the pleasure of caresses:

Caress me

Generally, asking to be caressed is to want them to glide over your body, gently rubbing your skin, showing affection, complicity or desire, generally with the hands, although it works with any other part of the body. It is one of the ways of expressing affection, and not all of them are physical, there are verbal and non-verbal ones, such as with an affectionate look or pleasant and sympathetic words, for example.

It is also an expression of love, whatever it is. A caress is a way of saying “I love you” to your partner, your son or daughter, your close friends, your father, your mother, your grandparents or whoever believes and believes that you will be well received, because caresses They are To generate well-being, do not disturb.

The family generates the first psycho-affective learning, caresses being an important part in the construction of self-esteem, present and future. Affective and relational family models are learned and repeated within and outside the family nucleus. Therefore, it is very likely that, if a person develops in an affective environment, with family members who express their affection, this in turn will do so with the rest of their social interactions, among friends, with partners, their future children and its environment. , according to the level of proximity.

Of course, sexual and erotic intentionality would not be present when we appreciate our children, but that does not mean that we feel pleasure when our parents caress us, hug us or smile at us, right? Intentionality colors different affects. Why do I caress my partner and why do I caress my son? Obviously they are not the same objectives.

How to enjoy caresses

I will focus on the tactile mode as many people have difficulty, or do not know how to do it or receive it. There are people who stand up with pleasure and others with disgust or fear when they are touched or offered. It probably has to do with your psycho-affective schema. Perhaps you have had negative experiences associated with touch throughout your life or your caring skills are not well developed, no more.

The fear must be out of the game. At least you have to take risks and gain confidence. It is necessary to focus on the sensations and abstract from external or internal interferences, without listening to our limiting thoughts, such as “I don’t know how to do it”, “I’m not going to like it” or “What if I generate rejection?” “, For example.

The psychologist Díaz Illescas recommends taking care of the aesthetics of the hands, which do not scratch, use creams and file the nails, since they can be part of the caresses.

“Caresses need patience, do them without haste and let your fingers travel to discover new corners”, says the expert. “Do not forget to do it in waves, as if your hands were waves of the sea that reach the beach in its entirety. Areas like armpits are often forgotten but absolutely delicious, which wash over the waves ”.

Imagine that you are applying cream on someone’s body or on your own for the sole purpose of hydration. It is mechanical, that would not be caresses. If you do it with an additional affective objective, such as caring, offering pleasure and affection or increasing your desire or self-esteem, with more or less intensity and without necessarily trying to give a massage, that is caresses.

Do not forget that pleasure is received by whoever gives and who receives, and if I give it, double pleasure for me. So you can put it into practice on your body.

Exercises to learn to stroke

Desire plays an important role but it would not be enough to get it right. There are people with a lot of desire but not very skilled.

Raquel D. Illescas, says that we can practice in many ways in our day to day. Apart from the Braille dice, we can use Chinese balls, but not the vaginal ones, but the manual and metallic ones, used for meditation and relaxation. They are usually two that we rotate continuously in one of our hands. Unlock and speed up our fingers.

Doing activities such as pottery, caressing and shaping clay, or playing with the modeling putties or pastes that children use for their crafts and games will be a fun and very creative training.

Likewise, playing with the snow, writing or drawing on it or on the frost that is generated on the windows of your car or making castles on the beach, decorating them with sand and water ‘churritos’ or defining details with your finger, would be be a very effective workout.

Types of blows

Training is essential, but intention and intensity are even more so. That way we could receive warm or tender caresses.

– Caressing the feet of your partner under the blanket generates closeness. If they have tickles, better caress the area of ​​the instep, less sensitive than the sole, and bet on pedicures. A scratch can have the opposite effect.

– To do a handyman in the cinema, literally, is to caress the hands of the person who accompanies you. Interlocking the fingers and caressing the interdigital areas is a great activator of desire.

– Caressing your back in bed to fall asleep is a very intense act of love, as long as you like the other party. And if you can’t sleep, it can generate heat and the caresses are mutual and intense.

– Slide your hands inside your body. The skin is much more sensitive, although not everyone can handle this much stimulation.

– Caress with a tender or suggestive look, as you want, while gently touching another person or including beautiful or sexy words, you will get your whole body to increase the effect of the physical caress.

– Write or guess loving or mischievous messages with the braille dice. In order for them to understand you, both of you will have to train. They will become caring experts.

– And what would you like her to caress her tongue, lips or cheeks when kissing? Touching my lips has always seemed like a magical caress.

– Dancing, the rubbing of a breast on the body of the other person can become a very sensual caress, as well as the rubbing of the male genitals under clothing, if desired, of course. To achieve the former, the ‘kizomba’ is very suitable, and for the latter, a sensual bachata will not disappoint.

Surround yourself with loving people who caress your life.