It’s really not surprising that you feel a little fragile, is it? Your body has just spent nine months carrying and feeding a tiny human being, followed by a grueling ordeal to bring it into the world. Your hormones are all over the place, you’re probably exhausted and woken up at all hours, no wonder you’re feeling tearful.

It will pass, but if you feel it is a problem or the blues continue, your health visitor or doctor will help you. Don’t grieve alone if she continues, she needs help or it could ruin her relationship with her husband or prevent her from bonding with her baby.

Suddenly, you can no longer walk into a store to buy more milk or a forgotten birthday card. A major lifestyle change has occurred. You have to plan your trips around naps and feeding times. She’ll adjust to her new way of life and enjoy meeting and loving this vulnerable little newcomer, but it will take time for her to develop a routine. Accept it and you will learn to love your new life and the wonderful joys of parenthood.

In the meantime, appreciate any help from your husband or family while you’re feeling a little fragile. You may also miss your coworkers, try not to isolate yourself too much, keep in touch with your colleagues, I’m sure they would love to see your baby. Also join support groups for mothers and babies; you will find it helpful to talk to other mothers; Local groups are easy to find online.

Your partner may also be feeling the strain of the new way of life, but still has to go to work, despite the lack of sleep. He may also feel isolated, a bit left out, and not sure how he can help. It will take a bit of time for both of them to adjust. Be kind and support each other and your relationship will grow stronger. He tries to see the funny side of little mishaps and relax.

Now is the time to pamper yourself a little and take advantage of offers of help. Explain what would help you the most. It could be doing some shopping, washing the kitchen floor, or a couple of hours to catch up on sleep while your mother, sister, or a trusted friend cares for your baby. Don’t expect too much of yourself or be hard on yourself. Feeling tired and overwhelmed will pass, let others help you