It is my opinion and observation that many couples take the male chastity lifestyle too seriously. Or rather, they are too solemn about it since, as the British comedian John Cleese once pointed out, the opposite of funny It is not serious; it is solemn.

And while I think taking the way you treat him seriously is perhaps a good thing (after all, having your penis and balls encased in, say, a stainless steel chastity belt is pretty serious business, as is your Health and security). and insisting on regular cleaning and inspection).

But there’s no need to be all moody and solemn about it, just like there’s no need to be moody and solemn about sex in general. After all, if you look at sex objectively, it’s pretty fun, with all the noises and funny faces you make, the positions you get into, and the wet, slimy splash.

Seen that way, it’s still hilarious, and if we can’t see the funny side, then we’re not going to enjoy that side of our lives very much. When I was a young woman, new to sex, the first time I heard that sudden harsh escape of air from my nether regions, I wanted to die. I was so embarrassed. I actually broke up with my boyfriend at the time. because I was so embarrassed.

But now, some (mumbles) years later, I realize that it’s actually fun, something for you. both to laugh

And the male chastity lifestyle is no different!

For starters, putting on a chastity device or belt isn’t always quick and easy. It’s lovely to imagine that you can get it all hot and steamy and quickly slide it over it with a flick of the wrist, but here you’re ignoring some simple laws of physics. In the same way that a square peg won’t fit into a round hole, a throbbing erect penis won’t fit into a tight tube without lube, focus, and often a few ice cubes.

And you will find that the male chastity lifestyle is full of these fun (if you want let be fun) little quirks and mishaps.

For example, he might find a solemn occasion when he gets down on one knee and begs you to take his key, but frankly, it’s actually quite funny. I don’t mean to say you’re laughing at him. per se but you’re laughing at yourself, at the two of you, and at the whole situation.

And if you’re both being solemn about it and feel like laughing, well…it’s like laughing at a funeral. Nobody is happy and tends to spoil the occasion.

But it won’t if you…

Relax and realize that the male chastity lifestyle is supposed to be funny!

Serious fun, yes; but fun anyway. And then there are the devices themselves. Some of them really look pretty hot. I think stainless steel belts like the Tollyboy look fantastic on a man. But some of them seem downright silly when viewed objectively, just as sex itself is fun and slightly ridiculous when viewed dispassionately.

However, I think the real danger in allowing solemnity to creep in is when you really want it to be serious Y funnylike when he starts to get desperate to reach orgasm and, in truth, it’s getting difficult.

So you have two options: be solemn and get angry with him; or be serious and fun and gently remind him why you are both doing this and with love and compassion, get him through these tough times.

A little compassion goes a long way in the male chastity lifestyle as it does in every other walk of life. You can be loving and compassionate and maintain that sense of serious fun and yet still be strict in your demands. You can have fun and laugh. with him instead of made to the without having to give in at the first hint of a moan, groan, or complaint.

You can be you

The aggressive, fire-breathing, man-hating dominatrix image that you must become if you want to live the lifestyle of male chastity is a fake, made up by those who know nothing about the reality of this delicious game. It’s a fun way to live, and anyone can do it without having to become something they’re not and would never want to be.