When it comes to making love, all women want to be sure that they are the ultimate sex symbol in the eyes of their man. However, the unfortunate truth is that not all women feel this way. At some point, you just lost your… sexiness. The spark is gone. Or maybe the spark is still there, but she feels like things are getting stale or soon. The thing about sex and passion is that there is always room for improvement and more, respectively. No matter how good or downright boring you are in bed, there’s room for improvement. It doesn’t require surgery and it doesn’t require years of expensive therapy… at least it shouldn’t. All it takes is the willingness to learn and the realization that you need to spice things up a bit in the bedroom. The following nine tips will put you well on your way to mind-blowing sex, stomach churning, and ecstasy.

1. Love your nude

This is perhaps one of the most debilitating factors when it comes to having great sex. You just don’t feel sexy enough naked. This could be due to several reasons. Maybe you’re out of shape and a little overweight, or maybe you don’t like a certain part of your body or think your partner doesn’t find you as sexy as he finds the girl on TV. The reasons are as diverse as the people themselves. But this should not discourage you. If you feel out of shape, start exercising. Take a walk from time to time. Research has shown that fit women are more likely to have a satisfying sex life than their unfit counterparts. Learn to love your naked body. Tone up, get a wax, visit the spa and treat yourself to a good makeup from time to time. The more confident you are with your appearance, the more vivacious you will be in the bedroom. Remember, the fact that he was ever with you in the first place means that he found you attractive. So forget about the lady on television.

2. Communicate

Tell your partner what turns you on. No matter how sleazy you think he is, chances are he’ll appreciate the information. Half the time men are blind when it comes to sex, and the fact that no two women are alike makes it even worse. Tell him what excites you and have him tell you what excites him. It doesn’t have to be during sex, although it is recommended. Have a friendly chat from time to time and save the tips to memory for later use.

3. Be spontaneous

The number one passion killer when it comes to sex is predictability. Putting on the same boring dog and pony show every few days or months can be overwhelming. Everyone is capable of spontaneity. Don’t take too long to think about it, just go with the flow. Men like sex and chances are he’s always ready to go as soon as you are.

4. Don’t skip foreplay

Most men are always looking forward to going. As a woman, you have to be firm and insist on foreplay. Kiss a little, caress your partner, bite and do a lot of groping. One of the best foreplay moves is a sensual tantric massage. This is easy to learn and connects you with your partner on a much deeper level. They could both take turns giving each other massages right before jumping into the main event.

5. Give up sex for a while

No, we’re not talking about denying you your marital rights. What we’re saying here is delaying actual consumption for a few days to build anticipation. However, the trick is to continually annoy your partner. Send her raunchy text messages, wear revealing clothing to bed, touch, kiss, and do the normal foreplay, but when it comes to actual penetration, wait a night or two. This will drive both of you crazy in anticipation and the utter need for each other will rekindle the same level of passion you had in your honeymoon phase.

6. Do Kegel exercises

You’ve heard of Kegel exercises. These exercises tighten the vaginal muscles making sex much more fun for you and your partner. The muscle you normally use to try to stop your urine midstream is the same muscle you need to tense during Kegel and hold for about ten seconds. Do ten sets a day. The best thing is that these exercises can be done anywhere, even sitting down watching TV.

7. Be open-minded

Try new things. Try everything at least once. Go online and research new positions and toys to use. This will open your mind to a whole new world of possibilities. Get your partner involved and you’ll both be amazed at how much you didn’t know about sex.

8. Try new environments

So you have covered every part of your house with your lewd lovemaking. Now is the time to try new environments. Meet at a hotel or even a parking lot (be careful though, people do get arrested for this type of behavior). The point is, try new unknown places. That feeling of adventure can bring great amounts of sexual pleasure for both of you and will strengthen the naughty bond between them.

9. Relax

Stress does strange things to our minds. Research has shown that when a woman is relaxed, arousal can be more acute. So take some time to breathe deeply, maybe take some yoga classes, or do something relaxing together, like go to the movies or have dinner. All of this will lead to a greater sense of arousal when it comes time to go to the bedroom.

As we mentioned earlier, it’s not rocket science. Just a little attention will do wonders for your sex life.