Support groups for pet connections through animal angels, animal spirits, pet networks, animals from beyond, and residents of Rainbow Bridge come in all sizes and flavors; in person, at health centers, at church, at homeless pet shelters, animal rescue groups, other organizations, and online. They are promoted to provide substantive and positive emotional and spiritual support. Does your pet loss group meet the criteria for a positive or negative experience?

A positive proactive support group is one that encourages learning. This group promotes advancement and helps facilitate the expansion of consciousness and its empowerment. They are a blessing in your life!

The positive group leader is not intimidated by your unanswered questions, but rather is inspired to be more polite. This moderator encourages you to ask questions that require further investigation to challenge each member of the group to think beyond the current circumstances of pet loss and into a larger mindset of “is it possible that my pet could be reincarnated?”

This open-minded attitude discourages group members from maintaining a “my pet is gone forever” victim mentality.

A positive animal bereavement group is aware of the psychological reasons why they might be using their negative reaction for “sympathetic care.” They understand that this is a confusing and complicated time in your life. However, an animal complaints counselor will attempt to rebuild a new consciousness through uplifting approaches to dealing with your life without your precious animal companion. The moderator’s job is to ease you through this time of emotional pain and loneliness, not to allow self-pity.

From its introductory “pet loss story” to its weekly “how’s it going?” grief story, the negative pet loss support group comes together only to celebrate the identity it created from the devastating death of your pet. This is a group of “victims”, joining others and sympathizing in perpetual negative energy at the highest level of disguise.

No matter how much you think this group is helping you cope with the death of a pet, it’s not. They exist to talk and share negative experiences creating an atmosphere of “lockdown”. It is the union by “depression” in progress. You do not receive points for being a victim of the loss of your pet. In fact, you are contributing to your own demise.

It must be a great concern to participate in a group that does nothing but tell what “was” and all the continuous unhappiness that permeates the lives of its lost participants. Inevitably, this will have a negative impact on the minds and spirits of the participants. The details of your pet’s death and painful suffering do not need to be broached over and over again.

Since you’ve already lived through the “story” of losing your pet, why would anyone continue to activate that grievance and negative energy? This is a common scenario in online Internet groups. Research confirms that telling your horror story and reading the countless painful vents of others do not facilitate positive mental responses.

Acceptance is one thing, denial another. Being “the victim” of your pet’s death drains your energy. Experiencing the loss of a pet and approaching it with a “sorry, poor me” approach is futile. It can help for a while, but the key here is “for a while”. Leave the pity party. Seek a fresh perspective on pet loss complaints to restore your heart and inspire hope.

As long as you are telling what “was”, you are living in the past. I know people who keep telling the same story about “Fluffy’s” death with every little detail embellished to the max just to keep the conversation vibrant with the drama of what it was.

For this type of person, who is actually moving on after their bereavement, “oh no,” that pet guardian would need to have a life and do more than just talk about themselves and their loss.

This type of person just goes from one person to another, from one support group to another, until that group of listeners doesn’t ask enough questions or provide the “poor you, you’ve been through too much with the death of your loved one.” pet”.

I know a woman who after years of pet loss counseling and therapy and ten years in all the pet loss complaint support groups, animal bereavement sympathy communities and pet loss sympathy chat rooms who could find, she started her own pet support group because no one wanted to hear her repetitive stories.

Do you have any of the tendencies mentioned above? Do you like the care that eases your sorrow? If so, you need to determine “why” you need this form of negative attention. This inner emptiness will erode your soul and eventually your health.

Don’t use the fact that you lost your pet as a marker of identification or to give meaning to your life online.

By creating your identity as the victim suffering from the death of your pet, YOU are the only one who will lose friends, and the respect and patience of those who encourage and support your healing.

Many members of animal support groups want attention. They use the worst illnesses and deaths of their pet as a banner to distinguish them. It is imperative that these individuals muster the courage to break with their need to rely on the loss of their pet to make sense of their life in “the” group. This is not productive. If a person continues to wallow in this oppressed existence, he can be sure that fewer and fewer people and friends will ask “how are you feeling?”

You MAY tell the story of your pet’s loss as a “learning opportunity” to help educate and heal others in your group, rather than as a Band-Aid of commiseration. If your group doesn’t continually support your positive emotional and spiritual growth, walk away.

A negative support group ultimately does more harm than good. Although grief takes time, uplifting attitudes are essential. Living with your pet’s “memory of death” can drain your energy from day to day and breath to breath.

I understand because my fiancé died in a sudden car accident. I never got a chance to say anything or have a “heads up”.

It is better to celebrate the life of your fur baby and remember all the good times. So you keep alive your pet’s positive contribution to your life.

By celebrating your pet’s life, you’ll never have to bury their memories. You can take them out of your heart’s memory box at any time, as a special gift and savor all the wonderful thoughts and feelings.

So take a look at the dynamics of your pet loss support group to determine if it’s growing or JUST repeating to the max the pet loss you’ve already experienced.

ask yourself:

1. Does your group agree to have an open mind and increased awareness and awareness?

2. Are you taking the knowledge gained from your group as a positive educational experience?

Unless you choose to advance, you will remain in the same condition that brought you into the party in the first place.

3. Have you been in the grievance stage too long?

4. Do you feel better today than yesterday?

Last but not least! Have you ever considered that your pet does NOT have to live forever as an Animal Angel, or resident of the Rainbow Bridge in spirit animal or in the afterlife?

Have you ever researched or considered animal reincarnation?