It is very likely that you or someone you know will experience the gut-wrenching pain of dealing with infidelity in the next 90 days. I do not wish this on anyone, but sadly it is the new reality we live in. Some of the traps will be emotionally charged matters. There will be others who will face a long distance issue on the Internet. Many will have to fight to find out why the person who says they still love them broke their promise and became physically engaged to someone else.

Obviously, there are many types of cheating in relationships, and some hurt more than others. However, regardless of the type of cheat, there are always unanswered questions. One of the most frequently asked questions is “why”? Why would someone cheat and risk your family, reputation, job, and financial security for an affair or, in some cases, a few minutes of pleasure? Listed below are some of the reasons why cheaters risk it all.

3 reasons cheats risk it all for 30 minutes of pleasure

One of the reasons cheats throw caution to the wind and cheat is because they don’t really care if they get caught. They sure are trying to hide their selfish behavior, but think about it for a minute. Do you really think a cheater cares about getting caught? I do not think so. It’s not like a 5-year-old sneaking an extra cookie out of a cookie jar. We are talking about an adult who is capable of understanding right from wrong. I guarantee that every cheater will ask the following questions.

1. Will my partner find out about the matter?

2. What will my spouse do if he finds out?

3. How will my family and friends react to the adventure?

4. Could my boss or coworkers have less respect for me if they find out that I cheated?

5. Won’t my kids love me anymore if I cheat on their mom or dad?

Unless the cheater is intoxicated or smoking cannabis, it’s impossible not to think about those questions. However, despite thinking about such things, a cheater moves on and has an affair. The real question is why doesn’t a cheater care to get caught?

Another reason a cheater will lose perspective and cheat is because sometimes a cheater has an entitlement mentality. It’s about getting them what they feel they deserve. Cheats with this mindset are sometimes convinced of two things. One is that everyone will be fine or happy after the adventure. The other thing is that a cheat will make you a better couple. Both reasons are simply wishful thinking.

The third and final reason a cheater is willing to risk it all is because he never intended to be in a monogamous relationship. The appearance of being with a partner is attractive and provides cover for an alter ego personality. This attracts less scrutiny and attention from family and friends. Unfortunately, he is once again disinterested. It’s like using someone for personal gain. He’s wrong in business, in relationships, and in life in general.

There are many more reasons why cheaters cheat. All of them are unforgivable and devastating for couples and families. Cheating is no different than being addicted to a drug. It has the potential to ruin lives.

So is there anything you can do to stop cheating?

One thing you can do is make it difficult for your partner to cheat. You may not be able to stop it, but you don’t have to make it easy for infidelity to show up in your relationship.

If you haven’t had to deal with infidelity in your relationship, consider yourself blessed. If you have dealt with infidelity, you know how difficult it is to live it. You simply cannot prepare for such pain and suffering. However, I hope that as time goes on you can help others get through their dark days and nights.