Contemplating divorce, or going through a divorce, is one of life’s most stressful events. Unfortunately, more than half of married couples will experience it. Due to the high divorce rates, almost everyone who gets divorced knows someone who has been or is in the process of getting divorced. There are often hurt feelings, custody battles, and property divisions to resolve.

If you find yourself in this situation, it may be tempting to seek advice and information from friends, family, co-workers, and others who have been through the same difficult situation, but don’t. Ask this group for comfort and support and get legal advice from your lawyer. A good divorce lawyer will be able to answer any questions you have and guide you in the direction that is best for you and your children.

A divorce case is complex. Clients often feel anxious because they don’t have answers to many of their questions. Although your case and a friend’s divorce may seem similar, they are likely to be different. There are so many variables that come into play in every case, including custody, money, prenuptial agreements, alimony, and many other factors.

Family law cases are based on facts. Differences in the facts of one case and another will lead to different strategies and legal results. That is why the best person to seek legal advice is your attorney. You should be concerned with getting yourself and your children the best possible advice and outcome. A lawyer can steer you in the right direction, while an unwitting friend can accidentally lead you astray.

What if you don’t have a lawyer yet? I highly recommend hiring an attorney who specializes in family law. Your own social network could provide you with names of lawyers. In addition, there are organizations that will help you find the right resources, lawyers, and other divorce professionals. Local bar associations can be another good resource.

One of my favorite organizations for women in the Chicago area that helps find divorce lawyers and offers support groups is The Lilac Tree: Resources for Divorced Women in Evanston, IL. The Lilac Tree is a non-profit organization that provides a multitude of resources for women who are thinking of, divorcing, or already divorced. I encourage women looking for information to visit your website. For men, find a local divorce meeting group in your area.