People who are romantically involved in a relationship hate the phrase “let’s just be friends.” The reason is that the person saying it wants to end that relationship. Hurt is the recipient of the message. It may be the result of a failed relationship that has been tried many times, only to have disastrous results each time. If you are the one being told, you may be completely heartbroken and broken. But this much hated phrase can become something that could benefit you. Let’s find out how it can be done.

This phrase “Let’s just be friends” can be used in two situations. Firstly, when the person wants to convey the message that she is sure the relationship is not going to work out and wants you to spare her an ugly or messy breakup that would attract unnecessary attention. Although such a case is a rarity.

Second, it can be used to mean that he needs time to analyze the relationship, and even though he wants to end it now, he cares enough about you to want you as a friend. It is up to you to decide which category belongs to the person who has told you.

Relationships cease to exist not because the person has stopped caring for you or has stopped loving you. It happens that he is confused about the way he wants you in your life and the course of your relationship. You may not be sure about the future of the relationship. He needs space and time to determine how important you are to him. And it’s time to decide if he needs you just as a friend or as something more than that. That will require him to be away from you and that is the only way to test the heart. So that he can judge his feelings for you. When he says “let’s just be friends,” it means he doesn’t want you to get away from him.

A relationship contains a sea full of feelings and emotions. Sometimes it’s hard for us to understand them. The brain tells us to do things very differently compared to what our hearts say. The brain can make you say those words but it is your heart that wants to be close to that person. That might explain why your ex said, “Let’s just be friends.” Maybe because he just doesn’t want to live without you. And you need to give your ex every reason to think that he needs you and that he should be with you.