Male chastity is a surprisingly popular option for many men and women, even in committed relationships.

This should not be confused with celibacy which is a complete absence of sexual contact, and in my opinion usually indicates a big problem in the relationship (although I recognize that there are exceptions, however rare).

But the obvious question has to be, how do men and women avoid temptation?

How does the man avoid the temptation to “cheat” and have an orgasm when he is not supposed to (no device can prevent this with 100% effectiveness); And how do we women, in the heat of the moment, avoid giving in and letting him have the orgasm he wants?

Unfortunately, there is no easy answer to this, and in my experience and that of the men and women I have helped in their quest for chastity, it is really a matter of practice.

we get good at anything testing it, making mistakes and then improving. In other words, we get good at things by being bad at things and working to get better.

With that said, here are three simple tips I’ve found helpful in avoiding the temptations inherent in chastity:

1. remember that the wants to orgasm… but he yearns denial. Understanding this takes time and effort (and could ultimately mean just accepting it regardless of whether understand that or not). The fact is, as much as he says he wants to orgasm, if you give in to temptation and don’t enforce chastity, I promise you. Really he won’t thank you. Once the heat of the moment has worn off, she will tell you that she wishes you had been stricter.
2. Please note this is for both of you. It seems like a lot of work to keep your man in chastity. Forks. Therefore, he is entitled to retribution in the form of his pleasing him without necessarily having taunts and denials in return. That’s what he wants, but he can’t have the cake from him and eat it. He can’t give you control on one hand and tell you how you should do it on the other.
3. Understand that it is just a game. Many men and women take the game of chastity (and themselves) too seriously. I have known women who get angry when their men have an orgasm when they are not supposed to. That’s stupid. It’s meant to be a bit of fun. Certainly not worth the fight. So relax and enjoy it.

There’s more to this, of course, and if you’d like to learn more about it, I’d suggest spending time finding some good, solid resources on the subject.