Our self-esteem is something that we can control and change at any time. It is based on our beliefs and attitudes that we have about ourselves. For example, “I AM GOOD ENOUGH despite my flaws, insecurities, and imperfections. Who I am is not defined by what I do, how I look, how much I weigh, or how smart I am.” It’s about loving who we are and accepting ourselves unconditionally. It’s allowing ourselves to be imperfect, accepting ourselves as we are, taking risks, trying new things and “LET US” negative thoughts, judgments and self-criticism. It’s about facing our fears and knowing that regardless of the outcome, we take a chance and face a fear.

Improving our self-esteem is about making our own decisions about how we want to use our free time, setting our own goals, and making decisions for ourselves. It’s about knowing what we like and don’t like and feeling comfortable saying it out loud to others without fear of rejection, ridicule or laughter. It’s about knowing our strengths and weaknesses and being willing to work on areas that need improvement, such as attitudes, friendships, school, or getting along better with others. It is having the COURAGE to be honest with ourselves and to be open and willing to change in a positive direction.

Being surrounded by friends and people who love and appreciate us is another way to feel good about ourselves, which will raise our self-esteem. People who know our shortcomings and appreciate us equally are good friends. It is also important not to take ourselves so seriously and to be able to laugh at ourselves. Good self-esteem is knowing that we have succeeded at things in our life that we once thought were difficult and being able to empower ourselves to try new things.

Another important factor to improve our self-esteem is to take care of our body. When we feel good physically, we feel energetic and full of life. It is important to eat right, exercise regularly, and dress well. Sufficient rest/sleep is also essential. When we are tired, hungry, and restless, we are more likely to make mistakes and react in ways that are self-defeating. So we don’t feel good about ourselves. In conclusion, to be open, willing and honest to see ourselves in a positive and loving way. Make today the day to say “I matter and I’m worth it.”