When an affair is ending, it will usually end because one person wants out…and then the other finds out (or is told) that it’s over. Do you have the feeling that he wants out of the matter? What are the signs that he is ending the affair?

I. His emotional interest in you has completely vanished. A man who is ending an affair is no longer emotionally attached to you… at least not as much as he used to be. It is not the natural lowering of emotions, but a complete lack of interest in you. Do not touch, hug, caress, kiss or other spontaneous delicate things. He just has no need or desire to touch you!

ii. He has no time for you or for the things that matter to you. A man who is ending the affair will no longer want to be with you or do those things that would make you happy. He will spend most of his time away from you and you will only see him when he can’t help it. He doesn’t want to do anything with or for you. Whatever errands he ran for you…or wherever he used to accompany you…that is now ALL in the past. He does nothing for you or with you.

iii. You feel like a stranger in his life. A man who is ending the affair is no longer shared with you, so you don’t really know what is going on in his life. Whatever challenges or conquests he’s making at work, you don’t know about them. Whatever’s going on with his family and friends…you don’t know anything. Whatever you know about him you have learned from other people who didn’t realize he is breaking up with you.

IV. She has returned to the dating scene. A man who is no longer interested in you is probably dating again. This can be a problem if you don’t know that he is breaking up with you, as you will feel like he is betraying you. If you look hard enough, you will find the evidence that he is dating again.

A man who is ending an affair without telling you can be a source of a lot of pain. You may have thought that things between you would eventually get better when in reality he doesn’t want to save the relationship. He is leaving the relationship while you are still in the relationship in the hope that things will go back to the way they used to be.