When someone has just started dating someone else, they may find that it feels really good. So you will still be on the same planet you were on before you met this person, but it may be as if you have been taken to another place.

This area of ​​your life is going to be good and just about every other area of ​​your life could end up benefiting as well. The good feelings that you experience in relation to this person will end up being directed towards another part of your life.

a focus

However, while having this person in your life will have a positive effect on your well-being, you may find it difficult to focus on other areas of your life. Like a child who has a new bike waiting for them at home, your attention can usually be on this person.

Therefore, when they are at work, they may not be able to perform in the same way that they normally would. On the other hand, they may be able to put this person aside when they need to.

on cloud nine

Both will have started as separate beings and will continue to be, but it could be as if they have merged into one being. The experience they both had of merging with their mother as infants may have returned, returning to the symbiotic infant state.

Almost all of your problems and concerns may have faded into the background, thanks to the connection you have with each other. The chemicals that have been released in your brain will undoubtedly play a part in all of this.

the journey continues

Then weeks and months can go by and everything can continue to go in the same direction. Because of how good you both feel when you’re together and when you’re apart, it can feel like you’re on a vacation that will never end.

This isn’t to say that a weird problem won’t come up, but if it does, it may not have much of an impact on your relationship. But, just as a real party comes to an end at some point, there is a chance that something will happen sooner or later that will bring these people back down to earth.

Of nothing

One could do or say something and the other person could end up completely lost. After this, one could remain focused and try to figure out what is going on, or they could behave in the same way and add even more fuel to the fire.

Alternatively, one might discover that their partner has had an affair or was already in a relationship with someone else. After learning about this, they might end up hitting rock bottom emotionally.

Two Experiences

If something small happens, like your partner losing you, you may find that everything is fine after a while. A small fire will have appeared and they will not have taken long to put it out.

However, if something big has happened, like your partner having an affair, it may not be that simple. A big fire will have appeared and it may not even be possible to put it out.

Confusion

Regardless of what happens, you are likely to find that certain feelings will arise within you. If your partner loses it, the feelings may not be as strong as if they were the ones to lose it.

However, the emotional pain will have risen to the surface and it may be difficult for them to understand why this has happened. That is unless they are not even aware of their feelings and are just reacting to what is happening.

The purpose

If one believed that they had found ‘the one’ and that this area of ​​their life would always run smoothly, it will naturally be a challenge for them to accept what is happening. However, what has happened will not be the main problem; what will be the main problem is the expectations they had.

Their response to what happened would likely be very different if they believed they were joining the people who would trigger their wounds and allow them to heal and grow as a result. This would allow them to see that while it may seem like another person has made them feel a certain way, there is usually much more to it than that.

the history

Being out of touch with what’s going on inside them and concentrating on what’s going on ‘out there’ will distract them from what’s really going on. Then it will be normal for them to get caught up in what their partner has done or not done, losing themselves in the drama.

Ultimately, what is happening is simply there to bring to the surface the parts of themselves that need to heal. Therefore, if one gets caught up in what is happening externally and ignores what is happening internally, he will be caught in an illusion (Maya).

Some examples

If your partner has a tendency to lose control and ends up walking on eggshells, it could indicate that they had to do the same thing to one of their caregivers. This person is then triggering the fear, along with the anger and rejection, among other things, that have been within them for years.

Conversely, if your partner has been having an affair and this hits you sideways, it could indicate that you experienced a lot of neglect during your early years. The anger, rejection, abandonment, and sense of worthlessness that you may feel now will likely go back to how you felt as a dependent child.

Awareness

Getting caught up in what is happening (the story) can make one feel like a victim and suffer unnecessarily. And instead of being able to see that the other person has been brought into their life to help them in their evolution (they may not be consciously aware of it), they will blame them.

If one can relate to this and is ready to heal their wounds, they may need to seek outside support. This is something that can be provided with the help of a therapist or healer.