During a toxic relationship or a relationship with a narcissist, we often become so addicted to keeping them happy that we forget to take care of ourselves. We put them first on our priority list and make sure to meet all your needs. Only to realize that what we do will never be recognized, appreciated, or enough for a narcissist. We make ourselves physically, mentally, and emotionally sick by not putting our own happiness first. And this is one of the hardest lessons we learn after breaking up with a narcissist. After we drop them or are discarded for a new supply, we are left only to ourselves to watch. But we have been so used to taking care of their needs that we no longer know how to take care of ourselves. So where can we start?

The first thing you can do is become brutally honest with yourself and come to terms with the fact that you’ve put yourself in the background for too long. Understand that your happiness and taking care of yourself should always be your priority. Even to be a good parent and meet your children’s needs, you can’t pour from an empty cup. You need to start making extreme self-care a daily habit. Your health and well-being are important. Without it, your quality of life is greatly diminished. Some of the things that have helped me get started on Self-Care is taking a few minutes every day for myself. In those few minutes I make sure that I am doing something for my own healing and recovery.

Things like reading a book about narcissistic abuse, writing, taking a warm bath, going for a walk, listening to podcasts or YouTube videos on how to recover from narcissistic abuse, art therapy, listening to music, spending time in nature, watching a fun movie. , talking to a friend, painting my nails, having a good cup of coffee, anything that brings you joy and comfort is self-care. You can add your own unique things to this list. Taking the time to take care of yourself will go a long way in your own healing. We must learn to make ourselves a priority again. Because ultimately, the most important relationship you will ever have is the relationship you have with yourself. You deserve to be treated with respect. So start by treating yourself with respect first.

Sending Light, Love and peace your way.