Many times, we look at things from a superficial point of view. What we fail to see in the difficult and arduous path to achieve these goals is that no one prepares us for the years of sacrifice and misery that we must face on our road to success, just as no one prepares us for the lonely, self-absorbed introspection. work that must be done before we can enter into a happy and healthy relationship.

Being alone does not mean being alone. You will never feel lonely if you like the person you are alone with. You will never be happy with another person until you are happy with yourself. That’s right, you must first be happy with yourself.

We have become so dependent on external encouragement and approval that we have forgotten what it is like to build the most important relationship of all: the one we have with the person in the mirror.

We long to be in a relationship because we believe it will bring satisfaction or fulfillment to our lives. We think we’ll finally be happy when we’re done with the man or woman we’ve been creating in our minds. We believe that being single means you are unwanted, and being in a relationship means you are loved.

The truth is, there are plenty of happy single people and plenty of miserable people who ended up in the wrong relationship because they thought it was better than being single.

These people did not fully accept the power and value of being alone. When you do this, you learn who you really are and what is really important to you. You learn what your values ​​are, what experiences you enjoy and don’t enjoy, how and where you like to spend time.

You learn, evolve and grow without any lanes to stay on or lines to color. You freely become who you really are and something very important happens while doing this.

You learn what kind of people you want in your life because you understand who is going to enhance your happiness and who is going to profit from it. You already know what kind of person you would like to share these experiences with. The kind of person who would make you enjoy your favorite restaurant or concert even more than you do when experiencing it alone.

But if you don’t take the time to live your life to the fullest in the way you choose, you may be shaping yourself to fit what your partner seems to want. The only way to prevent that from happening is to develop as an individual over time: you have to be happy with yourself first.

This is exactly why people think that they will be fine if they get involved in another relationship and repeat their same patterns again. Happiness, fulfillment and satisfaction are all within the job.

Fill yourself first. Define who you are, what is important to you and what you value. Learn and grow and change and evolve and become the person you choose to be. Then, and only then, will you learn what type of person will best complement you on this journey of life.

When they both find their “person”, that’s when the magic happens. But if you don’t take the time to learn who you are, how will you know who they are?

If you are not happy single, you will not be happy in a relationship. Why do some people believe that relationships are the key to happiness?

Before you can settle into a happy life with another person, you must first be happy with your own life. Your unhappiness will resurface and manifest destructively in a relationship if you get into one before you are happy on your own. Internal problems cannot be solved with external solutions.

The thing is, people expect a relationship to fix everything wrong in their lives. Big mistake, it doesn’t work that way. The key to happiness is feeling comfortable in your own skin. A strong sense of self-esteem is found in this foundation. The biggest mistake people make is allowing someone else to determine their level of personal satisfaction.

Too many people are emotionally dissatisfied with their lives and try to fill this emotional void with someone through a relationship. This couldn’t be a worse approach. You need to be happy alone and then find someone else to be happy with.

You need to find yourself and resolve any issues from the past before you start life with someone else. Someone who is unhappy will only bring this negativity into a relationship.

People don’t realize that if you have a problem within yourself, that problem doesn’t go away the moment you get into a relationship; He’s just going to celebrate. You run the risk of unconsciously associating this personal problem with your partner, which will only produce devastating results.

Stop waiting for someone to come along and make your life worth living. You make your life worth living. Take advantage of the incredible opportunities that life offers you. This is not a punishment, but a gift. You have no obligations and no one to report to. Get out there and do all the things you always wished you could do because no one ties you up or makes you feel guilty.

When you are happy you radiate positive energy. People will be attracted to you. This is how a healthy relationship will thrive.

You value your self-esteem and it does not need to be validated by another person. You create your own value, not someone else. You are the one who can make yourself happy. No one else can do this for you. Sure, a relationship can increase your personal happiness, but it’s you who gets you there. First you have to take care of yourself before taking care of others.