How to get your ex back is a question that many ask. The end of a relationship can leave us feeling lost, hurt, confused, and exposed, especially if it’s unexpected. Many times it is common that we want to rewind the situation, and we are starting to find a way to get back with our ex girlfriend or boyfriend, wife or husband.

But, before you even consider getting your ex lover back, you need to ask yourself these two very important questions.

1. Do you still have intense feelings for the ex?

If so, then

two. Is it worth the effort to try to reestablish a relationship with the ex?

These two important questions will determine whether your former lover is worth pursuing or letting go of. If your heart is full of pain, anger, or resentment over the breakup, it may not be the right time for you to reconnect with your ex.

Now, back to the essential information on the first thing you need to do to get your ex back.

I realized that many people are making a horrible mistake when trying to get their ex back. Do you want to know what that big mistake is?

Simple, they contact their ex too soon!

Understand this:

If you try to persuade your ex to get back together…

If you beg them to take you back…

If you say you love them all the time…

If you keep bumping into them “by accident”…

If you stalk them…

If you do ANY of the above, it will only drive them away from you!

This is simply because people are put off by someone chasing and pressuring them. (If you’ve ever tried to brush off a pushy salesperson, then he knows what I mean.)

I know it can be difficult, but you should avoid contacting your ex for a month after the breakup. What if your ex contacts you? Well, that’s fine, as long as you’re not the one who initiated the contact.

But how will I get them back if I don’t talk to them and meet with them?”

The answer is that you only avoid contact for a month. Don’t worry, after that month, you will get in touch with them, and you will meet them. And this time, you will be ready. That’s because during that month you will rebuild your self-esteem and attraction, and your ex will get to know you completely NEW.

One thing you definitely never want to bring into a restored relationship is old negative baggage and feelings from the past. Start again. Go back to the initial feelings she had when she first met you. Never feel like you have to rush things too.

Finally, you have to remember that trying to get your ex back requires a leap of faith because you know the relationship has already failed at least once. They both have every reason to believe that the second (or third or fourth) time will end the same way. The necessary changes require honesty, forgiveness and hard work. Good luck!