When your girlfriend decides she’s had enough and wants to move on to see other people, it can hurt a lot. I know it’s not exactly “manly” for her to know we’re in pain like everyone else, but that doesn’t change the fact that we are. Well, there are many ways to get over that pain and even get back together with your ex girlfriend, and I’m here to help!

Getting back together with your ex is not going to be a walk in the park, but there is a system that can simplify things and make it much easier than it could be. Even then, there is no guarantee that it will work for everyone, and honestly, anyone who says “my method is 100% perfect and guaranteed” is lying. No method works 100% of the time for 100% of the people, but this process I’m about to show you is one of the most effective out there.

First things first, when the breakup actually happens, don’t chase her around begging her to come back to you. It’s not very manly, and it won’t get you anywhere anyway. She’s already made up her mind, she’s probably angry or hurt or both, and seeing MORE of you right now isn’t really on her list of favorite things to do.

Give it some space, some time to heal and get back on track. While she fixes her own things, you should do some thinking. As painful as it is, it has been made clear that the two of you, the way you are, will NOT end up working things out. SHE isn’t going to change, so if you want it to work with her, YOU will have to be the one to change.

Take a look at your relationship with her and really find out what YOU did wrong. If you already know what it was, great… some girls will tell you what the problems are when they break up with you. However, not all of them do, so you may have to do some thinking here. Once you figure it out and make a list of the things you did to contribute to the demise of the relationship, you have more work ahead of you.

You have to take those flaws and mistakes that you have or have made, and get rid of them. Stop doing the things that push her away and start doing the things that draw her to you. A lot of it depends on the specific girl and what her individual needs and expectations are, so you can tell yourself exactly what you need to do better than I do since you know her better than I do.

Whatever the case, you need to solve your problems and solve your biggest problems. When you’re done with that or are on your way to it, you can restart contact with your ex. Remember to keep it simple and light, calling about the breakup or getting back together is generally not received with a lot of positivity. A fairly proven example of a first contact is to see how you’ve been doing since the breakup. It’s light, it shows you care, and it doesn’t start saying “OMG I miss you so much, come back.”

Once you’ve established contact again, slowly build it back up with a few contacts here and there, light and friendly without getting TOO friendly. Eventually, the two of you will probably start spending time together, and at this point it’s important to spend this time doing things that you two always enjoyed doing back when you were a couple. Doing something fun and familiar should bring good memories to the surface and start to rekindle a little how she felt about you in the past.

Really, from here on it’s just playing it by ear. Pay attention to her, listen to her, and watch for any signs that she may still be in love with you. Let her see for herself that the issues you had that helped end the relationship have been resolved or are in the process of being resolved. To be the boy she fell in love with, only without the flaws that made her leave.

Following this procedure tends to have excellent results, guys. No other “technique” has such a high success rate, because this one actually fixes the problems. If he loves you, he WANTS to be with you, he just doesn’t want to be unhappy while he is. That’s why he left! If you manage to stop yourself from causing her unhappiness and she can see that you won’t, she’ll be much more willing to give you another chance.

So give it a try, see what happens. I guarantee that she will be surprised at how easy it looks. Good luck! =)