If there were two people on earth who wouldn’t want to see you hurt, they would be your sweet best friend and your loving boyfriend. At least that’s what you used to believe. But now your world is turned upside down when the same two people are the ones causing you so much pain. The pain of betrayal by the people you trust the most is devastating, to say the least. You’re probably so angry that the only thing you can think of is revenge. Calm down, as being angry won’t do you any good, not that you care less right now. But here are some things to ponder that will help calm your nerves and guide you to the best next steps you can take.

1. There is a joke that the best revenge you can do if a woman steals from your man is to let her have him. The joke may only make fun of men in general, but when you think about it, if your boyfriend is capable of betraying you and leaving you, he is capable of doing the same with other people. So in a way it is true that the best revenge is to let your ex best friend have it and who knows that one day he will also leave it for someone else.

2. Be thankful that you can get rid of the wolves in sheep’s clothing in your life. That girl is obviously not your best friend and that boy is obviously not the love of your life. As painful as it may be, it is much better to discover that now than on the road when you feel more comfortable in the relationship and find it more difficult and painful to deal with. So take this as a blessing.

3. Learn the lesson. Think about the relationship and see if you can find something wrong with it. Which prompted your ex boyfriend to find someone else. What quality about your girlfriend that he likes is missing from you? When you become a better person, you do yourself a favor for your future relationship. It also opens the door to reconciliation with your ex boyfriend if you wish.

4. Forgive and forget. I can almost hear you say “yeah right”. The truth is that holding a grudge will not punish them in any way. The only person who is punished for that is yourself and you really don’t need to get hit anymore. If it’s impossible to forgive them, at least don’t put more negative feelings on them. They really fail. At the very least, you should forgive yourself. You may have done something wrong in your relationship, but the way it turned out is NOT your fault. Allow yourself a little pain, then forget about it and move on.

5. You may, for some reason, want to get back together with your ex, for example if you know you’ve done something terrible that scared him away and that you could have done it differently so that he wouldn’t leave you. In that case, there is a great chance that your ex still loves you and left just because there are unsolvable problems in your relationship. You can get him to talk to you openly, without your former best friend, of course, and see if it is possible to give the relationship another chance. However, keep your emotion in check, as this is very critical and you don’t want to waste your chances.