7 Ways to Get Your Marriage Back on Track

Marriage is not easy but it is through committed relationships that we grow the most. I have read before that relationships are really about us. The person we have chosen to be with is really a mirror of ourselves, but many times we cannot see it. Have you ever noticed that when people leave a relationship, the next person they end up with is very similar to their previous partner? We all probably know at least one person, or know of at least one person who has had multiple relationships with the same person; just a different face. Barring the obvious deal breakers in a relationship, it’s usually worth working out your issues in an open and honest way so that you both grow and learn.

Here are 7 ways to help get your marriage back on track if it’s starting to go off the rails.

1. Commit not to blame your partner for everything that goes wrong in the relationship. Learn to ask yourself, “How am I contributing to this problem?”

2. Create a life of your own outside of your marriage to make yourself a more fun and interesting person. Many times we let small things bother us when in reality the problems are more about us than about the other person.

3. If you insist that your way is the only way, learn to accept that there are many “right” ways and insisting on doing things your way all the time creates resentment. Ask yourself, if your partner had it your way, what’s the worst that could happen?

4. Commit to a weekly or bi-weekly date night. This is especially true for people who have small children. It is absolutely necessary to take some time as a couple. Remember the reason you got together in the first place. Find a babysitter you can trust and take care of the parents of her children.

5. Every day tell your partner at least one thing that you appreciate about him or her. Everyone wants to feel appreciated. Even if you don’t reciprocate right away, kind words will strengthen your marriage. Even on days when you don’t really like the person, find something nice to say. It will also change your mindset.

6. Accept your partner for who he or she is. Nobody wants to be someone’s project. If it really bothers you that your husband eats junk food, let it slide. If you can’t stand your wife watching so many reality shows, let that happen too. We are all human and we all have strengths and weaknesses, funny habits, crazy moods, and passions for things that are sometimes not shared by our partners. It’s okay.

7. Take 5 minutes out of your day to say a few kind words over email to your partner. It will make their day to see “I LOVE YOU” in the subject line of their inbox. It takes minutes to make a significant difference.

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